What Swinging Means to Me

Swinging has changed my life in so many way and most of them have nothing to do with sex. Since entering the lifestyle, I’ve become a much more confident person. I know what makes me feels good and I’m no longer ashamed to ask for it. I’m much more honest. Being in a monogamous relationship was very hindering and often times I felt like I had to lie about what I needed or desired to avoid hurting my former partners. I adopted the DENY, DENY, DENY policy and while it worked in the moment, it did a lot of damage to my self esteem and how I viewed the people I was choosing to allow into my life. If I couldn’t be self with these people, what kind of relationship did we really have? And now because of the lifestyle, I embrace my sexuality with my whole heart. And while I don’t announce I’m a swinger everywhere I go (although, sometimes I do!!) I definitely don’t deny that it is a major part of my life either. And why should it? I’m not hurting anyone. I’m just simply doing what makes me happy. And a lot of it!!

Since becoming a swinger, I feel like I am finally living my true life. And, where once upon a time I felt trapped and alone, I now feel free and LOVED. And you can’t put a price tag on that. After years of thinking who I was wasn’t good enough based on my thoughts and desires, it’s absolutely liberating to be a part of a community that is so filled with acceptance. To say it is has changed my life is an understatement.

And yes, swinging and being a swinger in this lifestyle does mean that I get to have sex. And often!! (And with many people!!) However, underneath all that superficial stuff, and past the physical, lies something so much deeper. It’s not just a lifestyle. It’s an attitude. And more than anything, it’s a way of life. It’s a way to live inhibition free and to surround myself with some of the most creative, expressive, loyal and happy people I have ever met. I’m more than sexually fulfilled…I am PROUD of the life I live and the people I have chosen to share it with. Inside and out, I am happy. Truly and completely. And, I can’t wait to see where the lifestyle takes me next.

1 Comment

  1. Stephanie

    Hey Michele! I totally agree with you on the confidence thing. I have never felt so go about me since we have entered the lifestyle. I was always body self-conscious and now, although I care, I am not the type to hide my flaws, they are what they are. It has been a real ego boost. Getting hit on by men and women you never would have thought would have given you the time of day. It is wonderful. I am more happy than I have ever been about me.


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